The "Coveted" High School Mentality

I'm here tonight to post about something that I am so thankful that I missed out on, yet is important to discuss exactly what it is and why it was important for me to miss such a thing. I am talking about the "Perfect High School Mentality" of average day America. Not Japan, England, France, Belgium, Russia or Venezuela, I am talking about the melting pot we call America and our blatant ignorance to the person right around the corner. Maybe I am biased in this arguement, but that would only be because I have been the victim of ignorance and neglect.


You are in an American High School, you have just moved here and you know nothing or no one. As you try to tell others about yourself and what you like to do, and maybe if your new acquaintance would like to go out later for pizza so you can get to know them better, immediatly they will turn a blind eye and begin talking to someone else they know. Sound familiar? for the past 4 years of my life, I have dealt with this on a daily basis in high school. It's hard to make friends these days in the slum pot of the American School System, because everyone's got a plan; and it does NOT involve making friends with new people.

You can think "alright this person is having an off day, its not a big deal and there are MANY people in school." Well, when you get to know your way around the place, you start to see that EVERYONE is caught up in the "clique" groups you see all the time, your sports players, computer geeks (for lack of better term, I think "Nerd" is discrimnatory) Those who like to hunt and camp out in Nature, the Cheerleaders, and the girls who could not fit in anywhere else. No one shares your interests, and no one particularly cares about them. You are still willing to experience new things, at a small price of trying to fit in. Things don't seem to work because people are still ignorant and don't want to pay a SECOND of attention to you.

Then you realize what it takes to be "wanted" and "accepted" by others. To do that, your going to have to venture into UNDERGROUND Territory, that is, the world of Drinking Alcohol, Doing Marijuana, Smoking up a Joint, doing Pot, Smoking and doing stupid stuff like climbing up poles, jumping off high rises, and having sex with others for the "pleasure" of the act. This is the true underground society of American High Schools, and the Rap/Hip-Hop culture is just a mild cover for it. Teenagers don't go to parties anymore to talk about life and do some fun things; they go to get stoned, drunk to the point of exhaustion and to get laid (have sex). Say you do do these things, and now your seen as "one of us". You've pretty much screwed up your life, getting caught by the police drinking and smoking, busted for having drugs, and in legal trouble because you got a girl pregnant by having non-consentual, unprotected sex when you were both DRUNK.

The most dangerous enemy to the stability of harmony within our society is not discrimination, nor hate or violence, its ignorance. If you do not recognize a person as an individual being with personal feelings, you have lost your humanity into the never-ending maze of High-School pop culture. Sometimes you may not realize that you have deeply hurt a person on a very deep level, and as a consequence you have turned that person into something they are not. Maybe grinding (dancing rubbing genitalia together) smoking a joint and getting drunk are THE things to do these days, even IF teenagers want to rebel. But what about the person with little to no bias? The innocent person who wants to fit in? The person who wants to get to know you and be a good friend by helping you out when in need. Because today, you have no one to help you but yourself. The innocent can become hardened, but in the end can prosper from the fact that they are still THEMSELVES, with hopes, dreams and the real chance to do something with their life.

I chose not to have sex. I chose not to drink, smoke or do drugs. Why did I do it? Obviously it was not the propoganda Health Class teaches you, I chose not to do it because I did not want to become an ignorant fool who will later down the line acknowledge they were a complete ARSE to people and they will suffer later on in life. You can only handle so much abuse, harassment and neglect (people ignoring you) but you can infinetly forgive. It doesn't take a crazy stunt to be my friend. I will treat you with respect, I will LISTEN to what you have to say, and I will never put you down for who you are as a person. I will do the right thing and my own thing, and watch myself grow and become a better man. If you want to be my friend, ask me and I will be yours. I will NEVER take advantage of you, and you can surely lay your life (trust) in my hands, because when I am there to help, I will help you in anyway I can.

I am a person with deep emotion and plenty of experience. I will not turn a blind eye to you in your moment of trouble. Come to me, and I will be your friend. I am a person who has not lost their individuality. (As of this date I still continue with abuse and no friends.)